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Post by loverocksalot on Apr 11, 2013 16:34:56 GMT -5
My little village has a facebook page that is a Mom's tag sale. Today I found a post from Monday by a local woman. This is a copy and paste of it. Going out on a limb...Need help finding a new home for my choc lab. He is a good dog he just needs a lot of attention and someone who is home all day. He is about 9 yrs old (i rescued him when he was about 4) i cant take care of him like he deserves. He has some special needs as well. If u know someone that would give him a good home please pm me.
Also included was a photo of the dog on the floor giving a kiss to a baby.
There were a few comments all were someone said their mother in law may be interested then later mother in law is interested in another dog. The other was bring him to pets alive which is a big shelter. I commented that maybe I can help her to keep him. To pm me maybe I can help.
What can I suggest to her to keep the dog one of her comments was: It makes me sad. But i cant take care of him. Esp with the kids etc. Its becone too much for me.
Im guessing she has small children. I would really hate to see a 9 year old dog end up in the shelter. He looks to be a full chocolate lab.
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Post by michele5611 on Apr 11, 2013 16:36:50 GMT -5
First off what are his special needs?
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Post by loverocksalot on Apr 11, 2013 16:38:57 GMT -5
I did ask what his issues are but no response yet.
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Post by maryellen on Apr 11, 2013 18:07:55 GMT -5
tell her to suck it up, the dog is 9.. no one is going to want a 9 year old dog.. and if the dog has "special needs" that will put people off too.. im sorry, i just get so pissed off at people who drop their dogs when they can put their big adult panties on and deal with whatever is going on (which normally is nothing earth shattering or life altering ).. its just a cop out for most people...
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Post by michele5611 on Apr 11, 2013 19:06:33 GMT -5
Of course I could be wrong but for what you posted above I have to agree with ME. These types of urgent pleas seldom turn out to be legit hardship cases. From what you posted it just seems like she is too "busy " with the kids to have a dog. I have head it numerous times how it is not fair to the dog. Translation I don't want the dog anymore can you take it. However I could be wrong and maybe there are some extenuating circumstances and some real special needs. Let us know!
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Post by loverocksalot on Apr 11, 2013 20:01:42 GMT -5
her comment to me and that was it: I'm not going to just give him to anyone. I want to make sure it is a good fit...
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Post by loverocksalot on Apr 11, 2013 20:03:16 GMT -5
I commented that sadly there are not many people who want a 9 year old dog with special needs on top.
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Post by loverocksalot on Apr 11, 2013 20:05:40 GMT -5
This woman has written me off she is only sending messages to people who express an interest in adopting him. She actually wrote me off recently on a scrap book club when I tried to help get it started. I am not sure if I ever met her in person. Does not seem like she wants help to keep him and that is what pisses me off.
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Post by michele5611 on Apr 11, 2013 20:16:52 GMT -5
Sorry. This is usually want happens CA. If you aren't going to take the dog or aren't going to help them place the dog you are useless to them as they often have no intention of keeping the dog. They are not looking for suggestions on how to keep the dog.
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Post by loverocksalot on Apr 11, 2013 20:46:42 GMT -5
She has asked me to pm her. But facebook wants to charge me. I asked for email. I am hopeful she will at least try to work things to make easier until she finds a home and learns its not so hard to work with him.
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Post by maryellen on Apr 11, 2013 20:47:18 GMT -5
when someone posts they want to get rid of their dog that is it- they have already made up their mind and nothing you say or do will change that.
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Post by loverocksalot on Apr 12, 2013 6:37:53 GMT -5
well she did send me message telling me a bit about him and what the problem is. Her long story short-He is spiteful and poops when gone. Works 50hrs a day and too much to handle with the kids. He is good with kids but knocks them over because he is too careless. Ok with cats, scared of other dogs. His special needs are easy part he has seizures and medication controls that. tried crating but then poop is all over him.
I told her he is not being spiteful but has separation anxiety. I suggested trying to confine him to a room or space where he feels safe. I told her I had similar experience with a dog I had for 2 months and confining to kitchen she never pooped or peed I think because she could not see outside. She felt safe there. I suggested day care or someone coming to the house to care for him. Maybe even hiring me. I also told her that I would ask others how to work with the separation anxiety and pooping all over.
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Post by loverocksalot on Apr 12, 2013 7:44:10 GMT -5
Looks like you were right ME and Michele here is the response. Thanks. But ben there already I already have two kids in daycare and thats costing me 2,000 a month. Yes i realize it is separation anxiety. I have had many animals who have had it but grew out of it. I havr already contacted most lab rwscues in the area. And they wont take him. Thanks for trying to help.
So my next response back was. Ok then I will put the word out about him but in the mean time try giving him a space preferably where he cant see outside or block windows so he cant see out. I know that worked well with my experience. ANd of course someplace easy to clean up the floor. Let me know how things are going and I will gladly continue to help you through. Do you have friends, family, neighbors that live in area that will stop in and check on him take him out, play with him? DO you live here in the Village?
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Post by RealPitBull on Apr 12, 2013 8:48:17 GMT -5
CA, I wouldn't waste your time. This woman already has decided to dump her poor dog. Even if she started working with you a little, the first "behavioral relapse" would have her back to wanting to get rid of the dog again. It's really great that you are trying to help this dog though, and I really hope I'm wrong about the lady.
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Post by loverocksalot on Apr 12, 2013 9:46:36 GMT -5
i dont think you are wrong because she blew me off when I tried to help with her scrapbook group with all the issues she is having todays post on her scrapper group is: Hi ladies! Im still trying to organize our spot. I need to know how many of you are digital scrappers and would require wifi?
Well first of all she has time for that group but not her dog and second I already offered her to branch off on an existing Non for profit org I already established with and no problem with using the space I already have. I felt like she thought I wanted to take over her group or something. I cant really deal with her lifestyle ways so I lastly told her I maybe could get together a group of some great people who would volunteer to help out with her dog. I only got back a smile face and I doubt for her to reach out. But you never know. Im leaving it now unless she reaches out to me.
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Post by RealPitBull on Apr 12, 2013 9:49:53 GMT -5
Yeah, def don't contact her again. She sounds like a real waste of time.
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Post by michele5611 on Apr 12, 2013 9:57:32 GMT -5
Agree with Mary. She has your info if she ends up wanting to keep the dog she knows where to find you.
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Post by loverocksalot on Apr 12, 2013 10:08:16 GMT -5
I agree. Im done.
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Post by michele5611 on Apr 12, 2013 10:10:39 GMT -5
You tried and that is all any of us can do!
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Post by maryellen on Apr 12, 2013 16:47:59 GMT -5
the dog doesnt have separation anxiety- hate to break it to you- its a 9 year old dog who just cant hold his poop for 12+ hours she is probably gone while working.... thats all.. hell i cant even hold my poop or pee for 12 hours... so why should a dog? she wont have a dog walker come in, she wont try anything else because "she has tried it all". if the dog got walked it wouldnt knock the kids over....bottom line= copout.. she just doesnt want the dog anymore. period..
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