Post by AmyJo27 on Dec 30, 2011 15:40:57 GMT -5
I need somewhere to vent and honestly have nowhere else to go....
First of all—I live in a SMALL town. Everyone thinks they know everyone and everything. Second—My family (Aunts, cousins, grandma) are all very close and all live in this town. Last—I am the ‘black sheep’ of my family. As much as I don’t like to admit it, it hurts to say it. I am the one (Out of the cousins) who didn’t go to college straight out of high school, had a child and was not married (thank God), decided to leave this small town briefly and try living elsewhere, and I don’t live my life trying to impress the rest of the town (My family care VERY much about what everyone else thinks and says…I don’t).
Whenever there is a get together at my grandmas I am expected to attend and when I do I feel like the second I walk in the door til the second I leave I am being observed and judged about everything I do and say. Then the second I leave, the griping about me begins.
Kris and I decided that since we live here in Iowa and celebrate every holiday here we would go to California and celebrate Christmas with his family (Whose all in Cali). We were very excited about this (Even my parents were excited for us to celebrate Christmas over there). So, we went to everyone in my family’s house to tell them Merry Christmas and give them their cards before we left then we spent all of last week in Cali-Just Kris, Avery, and I and of course all of his family. We got back to Iowa on the 28th and I haven’t seen any of my family since. I just received a text message from my aunt (Who practically raised me, she babysat me when I was little and our family has been thru so much together…) that said this:
“How typical of someone like you to skip out on a family Christmas. . You are the WORST daughter for your mom and dad, you should be ashamed. You need a f*cking counselor but you’d probably f*ck them over too”
I replied and said "Im sorry you feel that way"
And she said " Whatever. absolute truth. everyword"
When I read this….It just made me cry. I don’t know how to feel…Want to be mad, but it hurts. Never thought my aunt would say such hurtful things…and really out of nowhere.
I don’t want to be a total bitch but I am to a point with my family that I want to be done. The only reason they even look my way is to see Avery, I feel like every time I’m around them I get jumped about something or another. Seems like there is ALWAYS something I am doing in my life that doesnt measure to their expectations or they have to chew me out about...Always some drama. I want Avery to have family in her life….But Im to a point I want to say to hell with them all besides my mom and dad. No more going to grandmas for get togethers, holidays, nothing….Cut ties with these members of my family.
What would you guys do?!?
Kris is at work…I forwarded him the message…He is pissed. Im trying to brush it off and not let it bother me but it really does hurt. I cant really talk to my mom too much about it, its her sister. Feel like I really do need a counselor….
First of all—I live in a SMALL town. Everyone thinks they know everyone and everything. Second—My family (Aunts, cousins, grandma) are all very close and all live in this town. Last—I am the ‘black sheep’ of my family. As much as I don’t like to admit it, it hurts to say it. I am the one (Out of the cousins) who didn’t go to college straight out of high school, had a child and was not married (thank God), decided to leave this small town briefly and try living elsewhere, and I don’t live my life trying to impress the rest of the town (My family care VERY much about what everyone else thinks and says…I don’t).
Whenever there is a get together at my grandmas I am expected to attend and when I do I feel like the second I walk in the door til the second I leave I am being observed and judged about everything I do and say. Then the second I leave, the griping about me begins.
Kris and I decided that since we live here in Iowa and celebrate every holiday here we would go to California and celebrate Christmas with his family (Whose all in Cali). We were very excited about this (Even my parents were excited for us to celebrate Christmas over there). So, we went to everyone in my family’s house to tell them Merry Christmas and give them their cards before we left then we spent all of last week in Cali-Just Kris, Avery, and I and of course all of his family. We got back to Iowa on the 28th and I haven’t seen any of my family since. I just received a text message from my aunt (Who practically raised me, she babysat me when I was little and our family has been thru so much together…) that said this:
“How typical of someone like you to skip out on a family Christmas. . You are the WORST daughter for your mom and dad, you should be ashamed. You need a f*cking counselor but you’d probably f*ck them over too”
I replied and said "Im sorry you feel that way"
And she said " Whatever. absolute truth. everyword"
When I read this….It just made me cry. I don’t know how to feel…Want to be mad, but it hurts. Never thought my aunt would say such hurtful things…and really out of nowhere.
I don’t want to be a total bitch but I am to a point with my family that I want to be done. The only reason they even look my way is to see Avery, I feel like every time I’m around them I get jumped about something or another. Seems like there is ALWAYS something I am doing in my life that doesnt measure to their expectations or they have to chew me out about...Always some drama. I want Avery to have family in her life….But Im to a point I want to say to hell with them all besides my mom and dad. No more going to grandmas for get togethers, holidays, nothing….Cut ties with these members of my family.
What would you guys do?!?
Kris is at work…I forwarded him the message…He is pissed. Im trying to brush it off and not let it bother me but it really does hurt. I cant really talk to my mom too much about it, its her sister. Feel like I really do need a counselor….