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Post by AmyJo27 on Jan 3, 2012 16:33:04 GMT -5
Thought Id fill you guys in on how Honey is doing. Honey has been with Peter since December 16th. He and I have been talking/emailing back and forth constantly. Heres how its gone so far— The first couple days Honey got the runs, ate very little, and wanted nothing to do with Peter. At day number 3….She did a 360 and became glued to Peter, began to eat like a horse again , and the diarrhea began to go away. Honey is now very attached to Peter. He said the other day she nipped his hand when he was drying her off after a bath then had an attitude and didn’t want any contact with him for about an hour so he gave her time and space. He said after an hour or so, she went back to normal. Peter said if he crates her for any longer than an hour, she will pee and poo in the crate regardless of being let out. Peter has very little company, but he said when company comes he tethers Honey to him and makes everyone ignore her…She acts very fearful of others but hes had no serious issues there. Peter is really enjoying her company and I think Honey is really enjoying a quieter, more laid back kind of lifestyle (Less people coming and going, less time alone, more one on one etc.). So far, things with Peter and Honey are going good…I warned him that once she gets comfortable she may begin to test...Would she already be starting this or is this still to come?! Im hoping things just continue to get better. I miss her....Dont miss living so edgy...Things are MUCH more laid back and less stressful here but I miss Honey. Its kinda hard to accept that she is doing so much better with Peter....Makes me think and feel that the problem was me the whole time. Peter and I were talking about me visiting Honey…could it throw things off for those two if Honey sees me again? (I will have pics soon...Hes going to email me some)
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Post by maryellen on Jan 3, 2012 19:00:37 GMT -5
i wouldnt go see her.. that will only confuse her again... and yes it might throw her off again.. just email/phone etc .. she is possibly getting settled in , some dogs start showing /testing within a week, some in 2 weeks, it all depends on the dog
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Post by loverocksalot on Jan 3, 2012 19:04:11 GMT -5
Probably not good to visit her. She might think she is going back home and confuse her. If you want to see her wait some time so that she can bond with her new owner. By then you will have moved on and wont need to see her as much as you feel you do now.
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Post by fureverywhere on Jan 3, 2012 19:07:23 GMT -5
I don't know anything from dog behavior, but like you say maybe Honey just needed more quiet and Peter and her bonding is a great thing, don't take it personally really. I felt that a bit since pookins has started sitting on hubby's lap while I'm at work. But realize it's okay, it keeps her feeling secure...my beautiful sixty pound lap pooch.
But with Honey, I think visiting her might be a good thing for you, you'll see her being all happy and secure. I don't think a visit would disrupt her relationship with Peter, they've probably got a secure bond by now.
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Post by loverocksalot on Jan 3, 2012 19:11:49 GMT -5
You and she had a great bond. I do not think that you did anything wrong in raising her I think she needed a calmer quieter lifestyle. Maybe he can video her.
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Post by suziriot on Jan 3, 2012 19:23:59 GMT -5
Glad to hear that she is warming up to Peter. I agree with Maryellen and Carolann... I would not visit Honey for now. It can take several months for a dog to really settle in and bond. Maybe you can reevaluate the possibility of a visit at some point in the future.
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Post by catstina on Jan 3, 2012 20:31:21 GMT -5
Glad to hear she is doing well! As much as it hurts, it probably isn't a good idea to visit her for the reasons everyone else said.
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Post by melonie on Jan 3, 2012 21:11:33 GMT -5
So glad to hear honey is doing better. I understand the less stress part of it. I didn't realize the stress of having Rhett and the other two boys until he was gone. I'm just glad Honey has a chance to have a life right for her. Doesn't mean you did anything wrong w/ her, it's just the way she is.
I am going to Lincoln later this month, and I was so tempted to go see Rhett. But I wasn't sure my heart could handle it, let alone what it would do to him. This answers that question. It's hard. I miss my baby boy so badly sometimes. I'll go see him later this summer, after he has had time to really adjust. Maybe that is something you can look towards as well.
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Post by AmyJo27 on Jan 4, 2012 11:21:43 GMT -5
I will hold back on the visit. Melonie-you are right too....Itd probably be something I couldnt even handle....why should I expect her to?! Peter emailed me again last night and said this "Honey is constantly into or up to something. I love it. She always has me redirecting her, keeping me busy from boredom and potential insanity" I think they are good for each other. Im going to get Peter to hopefully video her and he is planning on sending me lots of pics (Camera broke, of course.) Thank you all for supporting me thru this... This has been a very hard decision for me but I think its worked out better in the end for everyone.
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Post by sugar on Jan 4, 2012 11:57:00 GMT -5
Stop beating yourself up about Honey, you were a great mom but she probably just needed a different environment (and thats not your fault). Please tell Peter to keep you updated...since you have to update a whole group of people too!!
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Post by johnr on Jan 4, 2012 12:08:04 GMT -5
Stop beating yourself up about Honey, you were a great mom but she probably just needed a different environment (and thats not your fault). Please tell Peter to keep you updated...since you have to update a whole group of people too!! Exactly. Not every home is the right environment for every animals. Far from it.
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Post by AmyJo27 on Jan 5, 2012 11:52:28 GMT -5
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Post by AmyJo27 on Jan 5, 2012 11:56:33 GMT -5
Honey got the hair rubbed off the top of her nose at the vet center because of a muzzle (She had lumps that had to be removed and the size of her scares my vet...long story short; the muzzle was too small, she had to stay and have an IV and it left a nasty mark on her nose) Peter was wondering, (and Im curious too), if it will go away or if there is anything he can do to help the hair grow back? This happened a couple months ago and you can still see it in these pics.
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Post by sugar on Jan 5, 2012 12:14:22 GMT -5
'striking' is the word that comes to mind when I see her!
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Post by fureverywhere on Jan 5, 2012 12:27:19 GMT -5
Maybe a dab of Palmers cream will help? Soothing for dogs, cats, humans. I guess everybody's right about not visiting her...at least yet. But think you made the right choice with her.
My Ferdie was a purebred border collie and I rehomed her to a farm with lots of room to run. I was in a second floor apartment and working twelve hour days. I missed her but knew I couldn't give her the physical and mental workouts that breed needs.
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Post by lovemybully76 on Jan 5, 2012 13:58:50 GMT -5
She is truly a beautiful dog. Even though you really miss her it sounds you did what was best for her.
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Post by melonie on Jan 5, 2012 16:47:49 GMT -5
She's so pretty. Hopefully the fur will grow back. Ellie has some fur missing in spots and I'm hoping it grows back. I have noticed that the scars Winnie has... the fur isn't really growing back so much as the fur around it is covering up the scar.
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Post by catstina on Jan 5, 2012 19:50:40 GMT -5
She is such a beautiful dog! Looks like she's really happy too!
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Post by tank on Jan 8, 2012 12:56:33 GMT -5
It is such a hard decision to give up a dog that isn't right for your family. Even though you know they will be happier somplace else you constantly beat yourself up for making them go through a transition and of course you miss them like hell. I have gone through the same thing. You have to trust your instincts and not listen to all you heard about "failing" a dog or "giving up on" a dog. When it is something that is in both your and the dogs benefit the outcome is most likely the most admerable solution.
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Post by AmyJo27 on Jan 10, 2012 11:05:28 GMT -5
Thank you all. I think she looks very happy in these pics and from what he says, she sounds happy too. Her nose is looking better than it did so I think the hair will grow back--Just take its sweet time. Was very upset with my vet when I picked her up and her nose looked like that. :/ I will continue posting updates about Honey and her life with Peter. Everyone keep her in your thoughts and prayers....want this to work SO bad! Thanks again for all your support.
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