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Post by bubsy on Apr 9, 2009 14:44:23 GMT -5
Not by me  She is in a Pit Bull savvy home, and is very much loved. I still can't help but feel like I made a huge mistake...not for her, but for me. I have been a foster home for 5 years, letting dogs go to their forever homes is not something new for me...but this one is really, really hard. Some stuff happened with my folks in NJ, and I had to be there to help them out. Things were kind of hectic for a while there, with me traveling. I know my cats are much more relaxed now that she's gone, but Murphy and I adored her. You know, I always thought APBTs were awesome dogs, but living with one really is just amazing. I hope that I can find peace with this, because I am not worried for her...but for my own selfish reasons. Thanks for letting me ramble..I haven't been able to talk about this for a while. |
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Post by maryellen on Apr 9, 2009 15:46:31 GMT -5
stop beating yourself up, you did the right thing, are your parents ok? next time you are in nj let me know..
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Post by bubsy on Apr 9, 2009 19:47:39 GMT -5
Thanks, ME. Yeah, my parents are ok. It just really sucks watching me Dad get older, and have all sorts of health problems. I'll be in NJ again maybe June or July, for my nephew's baptism. Unless something else happens at home that I need to help out with.
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Post by maryellen on Apr 9, 2009 19:50:49 GMT -5
let me know if you have some free time when you do come here, we can get together for lunch or something...
yeah i hear ya, my dad was sick for 28 years and watching him get older and sicker sucked big time..
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Post by bubsy on Apr 9, 2009 20:08:08 GMT -5
I would love to get together! My Dad is going to be 74 this summer, even that is hard for me to deal with. He's had heart trouble over the past few years, and he really hasn't been the same since then.
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Post by maryellen on Apr 9, 2009 20:11:38 GMT -5
my dad had heart problems for 28 years..
let me know when you will be in nj and we will get together!
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Post by RealPitBull on Apr 13, 2009 8:17:00 GMT -5
Wow, I'm so sorry you are having such a rough time of things, and that your dad isn't doing well. Sounds like bad timing in regards to Daisy leaving. You did a wonderful thing for her, though. And I know it hurts but when you are feeling low, picture her happy face in her loving new home. Know you can save ANOTHER life because of your very SELF-LESS decision to foster and then adopt Daisy out to a new home.
Thoughts are with you, chica, stay strong. I'm sending some good vibes your way. **hugs**
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Post by bubsy on Apr 13, 2009 15:39:20 GMT -5
Thanks so much, Mary. So many people say to me that they could never foster, how do I do it, they could never let any dog go, etc. I joke around and say I have a heart of stone because I haven't failed Fostering 101 yet. Sometimes with some dogs it's relatively easy letting them go on to their forever home, and sometimes it knocks me on my butt..like it has with Daisy. It will get better, it will just take some time...thanks for the hugs.
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Post by bamapitbullmom on Apr 18, 2009 22:01:32 GMT -5
Some are harder than others and anyone who doesn't admit that is just kidding themselves.  I have a foster failure, it wasn't b/c I couldn't bear to part with her it was because she basically was unadoptable (this is Jasmine who came from another rescue group I am not affiliated with). I have no doubt she'd be a dead dog now if she went elsewhere b/c of her fearfulness. I've never felt regret, only that deep, nagging worry. I know how I do things and as much information as I pass on to the new owner, I know they will do things differently and I ache for the dog during transition b/c I know it will be difficult and confusing for them. But boy when I get updates and pictures! It makes it all worth it. Hang in there, another one will come along to fill the space and renew your energy to do it all over again. |
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Post by bubsy on Apr 19, 2009 20:34:32 GMT -5
I've never felt regret, only that deep, nagging worry. I know how I do things and as much information as I pass on to the new owner, I know they will do things differently and I ache for the dog during transition b/c I know it will be difficult and confusing for them. But boy when I get updates and pictures! It makes it all worth it. Hang in there, another one will come along to fill the space and renew your energy to do it all over again. Thanks, I'm definitely going thru Pit Bull withdrawals right now ...I'm on the verge of stopping anyone w/a Pit Bull on the street so I can say hi We'll see who the next foster is, it will help to fill that void....especially since it keeps me busy! |
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She is in a Pit Bull savvy home, and is very much loved. I still can't help but feel like I made a huge mistake...not for her, but for me. I have been a foster home for 5 years, letting dogs go to their forever homes is not something new for me...but this one is really, really hard. Some stuff happened with my folks in NJ, and I had to be there to help them out. Things were kind of hectic for a while there, with me traveling. I know my cats are much more relaxed now that she's gone, but Murphy and I adored her. You know, I always thought APBTs were awesome dogs, but living with one really is just amazing. I hope that I can find peace with this, because I am not worried for her...but for my own selfish reasons. Thanks for letting me ramble..I haven't been able to talk about this for a while. 
I have a foster failure, it wasn't b/c I couldn't bear to part with her it was because she basically was unadoptable (this is Jasmine who came from another rescue group I am not affiliated with). I have no doubt she'd be a dead dog now if she went elsewhere b/c of her fearfulness.
